Give yourself the chance to save your marriage if you are on the verge of divorce or separation. Think back to a time when the 2 of you could not stand being apart. Meditate on what drew you together in the first place. Perhaps a spark from the past will fan the flame for the future. Take time to recall the good times. Usually the decision to divorce or separate is a quick one. So, s-l-o-w down. Set aside some time to really think about what you’re doing. I can tell you, if you think things will be better by leaving, you’re in for a surprise.  Here’s what happened to me. I thought, “I’ll divorce, then remarry.” Then I got to thinking: If I remarry, she’ll probably have parents, brothers, sisters, children, etc. Do I really want to re-learn about all these new folks?, when I already know the folks in the current marriage. I know what they think of me. What will the new folks think? And, my own son, he justs wants mom and dad, not mom and half-a-dad. Well, to make this a short story, I decided: it is going to be better to change me and stay rather than stay me and change. Get it?  Anyway, either way, it won’t be easy. Marriage requires work and dedication. By thinking back to the good times, I’m convinced it is possible to rediscover what brought us together initially. For us, it was first and foremost, our commitment to God that we had in common. I decided that was enough to keep us going. And so, here we go …